Where do you picture yourself in forty years? If I have any faithful readers out there, they may have noticed I didn't get a chance to post a new blog last week. That's because I was in Virginia visiting family for my dad's retirement celebration. He just retired after forty years and eight months of service as a civilian employee for the Navy. He started working at this place as part of an internship program while he was still in college and he's been working there ever sinc
Have you had the experience of looking at a picture of yourself from several years back and being shocked by how young you looked? I look at pictures of me and my friends from our college years now and think, “look at those little freshmen babies... I feel old now”. I said last week that counseling can act like a mirror that helps you to see yourself more clearly. I talked about how pointing out relational blind spots is one way that can be true, but that's not the only way.
“I can't see my face. You can. I need somebody who holds a mirror up to me and that allows me to see.” This is a partial quote from a great video by Dan Allender. Of course, when he talks about not being able to see our own faces he means more than just physically. This is one of the tricky things about growth -- as the person trying to change we don't always have the full perspective. This is one of the ways I believe counseling can be a big help. A counselor can be someone